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Parenting a “kite kid” – my term for gifted and twice-exceptional (2e) children – comes with unique challenges, but you can navigate them. That’s why my primary focus has evolved into separating fact from fiction about “gifted” and 2e kiddos for general educators, mental health experts and pediatric clinicians.

Kite kid moms tell me they get a lot out of what I’m sharing too, though, which is no surprise. Here are a few resources I’ve created that I think you’ll love:

  • My Kite Kids 101 page. It provides a high-level overview of the most important things to understand about giftedness.
What gifted students wish their teachers knew
  • My parent blog articles. The articles that appear on my home page address a range of topics related to kite kids. Some of my stories are deeper dives on clinical aspects of giftedness; others focus on social-emotional issues or academics. The template I use for this site prompts me categorize each blog post. And, if I want, I can pick more than one category. (So I tag quite a few articles for “parents” because, often, you’ll benefit from the information just as much as teachers, therapists and pediatricians!)
  • The Kite Kid Mama Pinterest account. This is where I save copies of my articles to reach a broader audience with this information. I’d love for you to check them out, and save and share any that resonate with you. Not only is it a convenient way to electronically “dog ear” information that you want to refer back to, Pinterest also shows the pin to more of its users, thereby increasing awareness about these important topics. And, heaven knows, we really need educators, mental health professionals and others to understand the basics of this type of neurodiversity!
  • The Kite Kid Mama Instagram account. When I started this account in August 2019, I had never been on Instagram before. Crazy, right? I figured it would be yet another social media distraction. While that easily could have been true, I realized it could be an awesome way to help change the narrative about gifted kids and their parents…to explain that we do struggle and that there are a lot of misconceptions out there!
Asynchronous development

Since jumping onto Instagram, I’ve met some amazing moms, therapists, teachers, pediatricians and others. People who care deeply about these kiddos! We’d love for you to join the conversations we’re having on a range of topics related to gifted and 2e kids. All I ask is that you be respectful. Most of us kite kids mamas have had negative experiences with a teacher or physician, but the ones interacting with my posts want to learn more about giftedness and what it means to be 2e – and they want their colleagues to do so too.

  • My parent welcome series. For additional insights, please subscribe to my blog. I’ll add you to a welcome series that provides more information, and alerts you when I post a new article or there’s something happening in the “gifted” and 2e parenting world that you should have on your radar.

And this is just the tip of the iceberg, my friend. There are tons of resources out there that have been super helpful to me. It’s just hard to find them if you don’t know what to look for.

Below is a summary I’ve curated, partly through my own journey to better understand my “differently wired” children and also through my conversations with experts I’ve interviewed. The resources I’m listing are truly awesome, so now I’m passing them along to you!

The Bible” on giftedness

A Parent’s Guide to Gifted Children is one of the best parenting book I've ever read. In less than two dozen pages, I'd discovered more about my son than I had in three years! | Kite Kid Mama

Read A Parent’s Guide to Gifted Children. (Seriously.) A couple months into being told that my oldest is “highly gifted,” I was already creating this blog because I was frustrated that it had taken so long to find out why he struggled so much socially.

I interviewed a gifted/2e therapist and she suggested that I read this book. I’m so glad she did because it changed everything for me.

You know the exploding head emoji with its mouth agape? That was me by page 22. In less than two dozen pages, I’d discovered more about my son than I had in three years!

I’m not exaggerating. It explained so much about his behavior – and the way he perceives and processes incoming information. I can’t recommend it highly enough.


There several podcasts that I think you’ll love. So this page doesn’t get too long, I’ll stick with my two favorites:

  • On the Hard Days podcast. First and foremost, Megan is an awesome human being. She’s honest to a point that most moms aren’t willing to go, especially in public. But like me, she knows that’s where the magic happens. That if you really want to make a difference in this world – and connect with others who “get” you – you can’t simply expose yourself at the surface level. As a fifth grade teacher, she explained, in Season 1, the guilt and shame she felt about not understanding her own son. And how she now realizes mistakes she made with some former students, who she now realizes, are almost certainly gifted or 2e, too. In Season 2, she began interviewing other moms with out-of-the-box kids. Those conversations are so relatable.
  • The Neurodiversity Podcast. If you geek out on what makes people tick, this podcast by Emily Kircher-Morris, LPC, is 100% for you. What gives her program a depth, that most don’t have, is her professional evolution. She’s a general educator turned gifted educator turned school counselor turned clinical mental health counselor. And all of those combined experiences and insights, paired with the fact that she is twice exceptional, meld together in the most wonderful way. In each episode, Emily interviews advocates and experts to tackle issues from processing speed and social-emotional needs to the battle for dyslexia services and a heartbreaking, but fantastic, three-part series on suicide in the gifted and twice exceptional population.

For more podcast recommendations, subscribe to my blog.

Stress management

When a child has depression or an anxiety disorder of any kind (generalized anxiety, social anxiety, etc.), he must know what calm feels like before he can begin the process of achieving that state on his own. This can take time, explains Stuart Shanker, PhD, author of Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Stress Cycle and Successfully Engage with Life. Each child is different, so what enables one child achieve a state of calm may do nothing to help another kid. In fact, it could have the opposite effect.

Also, if a child has significant social challenges, don’t try to tackle that until after addressing the child’s stressors.

Why? Because anxiety disorders and clinical depression are straight-up debilitating. In fact, he won’t even be able to access the thinking part of his brain (the pre-frontal cortex). That’s the part that makes it possible for us to interpret facial expressions, control impulses, discern what’s a true threat, and more.

Dr. Shanker talks about this in Self-Reg. Social competencies guru Michelle Garcia Winner does, too. She’s the speech-language pathologist who created the Social Thinking® methodology and curriculum. (See social competencies section below.)

With From Worrier to Warrior: A Guide to Conquering Your Fears, author Dan Peters, PhD, shows your child how to overcome worry and fear using several easy-to-follow strategies. Kids can read the book themselves, or read along with a parent or other adult. Worriers learn how to create their very own “toolbox” of strategies to combat fear and anxiety, and conquer “the Worry Monster” at any time.

“Dr. Dan” is an expert on anxiety disorders and 2e kids. In fact, he had to learn how to battle the Worry Monster himself! He touches on this in the book and explains how, even as an adult, he still has to silence the Worry Monster occasionally. That’s such a great point, in my opinion, because it reinforces the all-important “progress; not perfection” message, and also helps kids realize this is a life skill.

Dr. Dan also has two companion resources for this book:

  • The Warrior Workbook, which contains exercises and conversations designed to increase self-awareness and a deeper understanding some challenges that kids face. 
  • Make Your Worrier a Warrior, written for parents and teachers, provides useful and comforting methods to support kids who worry a lot. Adults often find that these strategies can help them effectively manage their own anxieties, too. 😉

Social competencies

Learn why your kite kid may lack “social intelligence” – and may experience exclusion or bullying because of it. (My article on building “social smarts” is a good place to start.)

For a much deeper dive with Michelle Garcia Winner (who I mention in the above article), Social Thinking and Me is a fantastic resource. It’s a guidebook, written for 9- to 12-year-old students, who have strong language skills, but struggle with the “hidden expectations” of sharing space and relating to their peers. By the way, this is book one in a two-book set.

The second book (for adults) includes related “think sheets” to further explore teaching each concept in the kids’ guidebook. Many “gifted” kids have told Michelle and her team that this book set provided them with a scientific way to explore the mysteries of the social world. (Perfect for the way they think, right?)

In addition, Thinking About You Thinking About Me contains a great overview of the Social Thinking® Methodology, an approach that teaches kids “social smarts” and techniques for applying those competencies to everyday situations. The method also provides a good foundation for books like her popular Superflex Curriculum and You Are A Social Detective! Thinking About You Thinking About Me also explains the best way to assess “social smarts” skills.

Hint: The best way isn’t in an unrealistically quiet room. Assessments also shouldn’t deconstruct, and examine, communication in parts. That’s because the real-world test (by peers) demands that students be able to successfully integrate communication skills, and perform each component and transition quickly (two seconds or less).

I also learned a lot from Smart Parenting for Smart Kids. Read my article on The Problem with "Potential," which focuses on an important message to parents in the book's introduction. | Kite Kid Mama

Help your child build his social skills. One book that helped my son (and me from a coaching perspective) is Growing Friendships: A Kids’ Guide to Making and Keeping Friends.

I also learned a lot from Smart Parenting for Smart Kids. (Read my article on The Problem with “Potential” which focuses on an important message in the book’s introduction.)

Other moms who blog

Follow bloggers who write about “gifted” and 2e children. Besides my site, which I hope you’ll follow, here are some other moms I like:

All of these ladies homeschool their kids. I don’t, but homeschooling is only one of the subjects they discuss. They discuss many other topics, too.

Online communities

Find online groups for gifted parents. There are a lot out there once you start looking. When I joined the first one, I scrolled through some of the other mom’s posts and felt, for the first time, like other parents understood what my son and I had been experiencing for so long.

I mention a few when you subscribe to my email list. (To help protect these moms from Internet trolls, I’m not going to mention them here.)

Also, Bright & Quirky is a membership-driven site, that provides a lot of value to 2e families; however, they also make occasional posts on their blog, which anyone can access.


Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnoses of Gifted Children and Adults: ADHD, Bipolar, OCD, Asperger’s, Depression, and Other Disorders

If you think your child could use professional help to navigate any social, emotional or behavioral challenges, find a therapist trained in giftedness. You shouldn’t go to a cardiologist for a knee replacement; the same is true here. Because your child is “differently wired,” she’ll experience unique challenges that someone trained in giftedness is better equipped to counsel her on.

My article on medical misdiagnosis explains how dangerous this lack of knowledge can be for gifted patients. For more in-depth information, I also recommend Misdiagnosis and Dual Diagnoses of Gifted Children and Adults: ADHD, Bipolar, OCD, Asperger’s, Depression, and Other Disorders (2nd edition). It has really helped me understand this issue.


Learn why some smart kids lack "social intelligence" | Kite Kid Mama

Get to know the two leading organizations in the gifted arena. They have great information on their websites and Facebook pages.

Review the National Association of Gifted Children’s parent tip sheets. They address 12 aspects of giftedness, ranging from asynchronous development and making friends, to how to collaborate with teachers.

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