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If you’ve never formally learned the common traits of giftedness, there’s a good chance you’ll have difficultly recognizing it in students. Countless myths have skewed people’s perceptions.

And although it may seem unnecessary to spot potential giftedness in a child before third grade, in some cases, it really is. Kite kids, as I call them, can experience considerable challenges before then – and I don’t mean academically.

Yes, some issues relate to academic fit; however, many others relate to social-emotional issues, and too often, an inability to fit in socially – no matter how hard they try. As a result, kite kids become targets both inside and outside of school. It’s a 24/7 situation that can easily follow them to the soccer field, summer camp, or anytime they step out their front door.

My son began experiencing this shortly after his fifth birthday. I didn’t know he was “the G word” until after he turned eight, so by then, he’d experienced peer rejection nearly half of his life!

And even at that young age, not all children who are bullied tell their parents or teachers how often it’s occurring. (My son said very little and, usually, it was months later.)

Common indicators

Here are some characteristics you may notice. (Keep in mind, there are many more. And all of them relate to asynchronous development or one of the five types of intensities.)

17" x 22" Other People Matter poster. Part of the Woodland Whimsy collection by Schoolgirl Style.
17″ x 22″ Woodland Whimsy poster by Schoolgirl Style
  • Advanced vocabulary, grammar and sayings for their age.
  • Walking encyclopedias who know countless facts and statistics about various subjects, especially those that are of particular interest to them.
  • An insatiable curiosity that only seems to increase as they get older.
  • Unusual interests for their age. (See examples in my Possible Clues I Missed article.)
  • More comfortable around adults than “age peers.” (This probably won’t be as obvious if the child is an extrovert; here’s why.)
  • Self-directed motivation in what they’re interested, which may or may not, be what’s on your lesson plan
  • Allergies and/or asthma (that one made me scratch my head, too!)
  • Loves puzzles, problem-solving and puns.
  • sense of humor most classmates don’t understand or that they just plain find annoying.
  • Notices details others don’t, and has a strong sense of cause and effect (intellectually, but often, not socially).
  • The school counselor’s “friendship group” doesn’t help much, if at all.

Other considerations

Keep in mind, too, there’s no guarantee the student’s parents will realize he’s gifted. Often, they won’t – especially if he’s in preschool or early elementary school, or he’s the oldest child in his family.

Moreover, if the child is twice-exceptional or “2e” (gifted + a disability), people are more likely to notice where he struggles rather than the area(s) in which he’s gifted.

Did I mention this can get complicated?

Where to go from here

I know. It’s mind-boggling. To help, I’ve created some suggestions for applying this information.

In addition, here are a few other resources I’ve found.